Priya Ramachandran
Shared her story with the Friend You Need community
Going through an emotional set backup but thanks to friend you need team to remain by my side and helped me to come out of it.
I was going through an emotional turmoil.
There are things in our lives that enter suddenly that threaten our peace and break ups are absolutely one of them. One day you feel happy, in love, in control, and all of a sudden a break up comes and rips all of that away.
It’s normal to feel shaken up, chaotic, and flustered. It’s also normal to have a very loud mind that continues to tell you super negative things. I remember after my break up I felt like I couldn’t sit still for more than 5 minutes without a wave of agonizing emotions coming over me, so I stayed reallllly busy, but obviously that isn’t sustainable for anyone.
Peace of mind after a break up is going to look differently for everyone, but examples might include:
- being at peace with the kind of partner you were instead of analyzing every little thing you did in the relationship thinking if you had just done this one thing differently the break up wouldn’t have happened.
- being in acceptance that the break up happened instead of trying to control the situation towards a different outcome
- knowing that even though this doesn’t make sense right now, someday the break up will make sense and you’ll likely even be grateful for it at some point.
- having faith that someday the partner that’s meant for you will come
- or it can be as simple as being OK being alone, this was a huge milestone for me in finding peace.
